Have you ever been in the situations where you see a man who catches your eye and causes your heart to skip a beat with excitement? Or maybe there is a man you already know who you've started to fall in love, but you're afraid of scaring him away if he doesn't feel the same. What can you do if you find yourself faced with one of these situations?

Here's what often happens and has happened to so many women that I know.

After attracting a man, they get to know him a little better, and come to a set of conclusions (based on a semi-knowledge of his personality) of what sort of woman he would most like to hang out with.

And so they start to make all these little alterations to their personality, they start changing a preference for music here, developing a sudden taste for dirt-biking or rugby there, exchanging white wine for beer, and ditching all their friends for his friends

Because they believe, based on what they now think they know about his personality, that he will like them better if they more closely resemble him and his friends.

Is that the right thing to make a man want you?

ABSOLUTELY WRONG!!

This sort of thing can make a man doesn't see you as a woman. In your efforts to become "one of the boys", that's exactly how he now sees you! Not literally as a boy, of course, but definitely not a contender to be the woman in his life.

And before you know it, your original personality (the one that attracted the guy in the first place) is gone. It is replaced by a bizarre replica of the new man in her life.

The one thing a man has to know about someone before feeling attraction is that she's a woman. A man wants a woman because she's a WOMAN. That's the SECRET!

Men are attracted to WOMEN, plain and simple.

And, who is a woman?

- A woman is someone who's completely different from him in every way.

- A woman is someone who has intuition, is in touch with her emotions, and can nurture and support others through life's ups and downs.

- A woman is someone that a man can trust to teach him how to feel, how to love, and how to live life in its most fullest capacity.

Men cultivate masculine relationships to satisfy completely different needs than the ones that they cultivate feminine relationships for. A man will go to other man to fix stuff, play-fight, talk sports, hang out, or bond over a beer.

He'll go to a woman when he wants to talk about his hopes and dreams. He'll go to a woman when he wants to feel loved or nurtured. He will go to a woman when he wants to feel supported.

Remember, a man wants a woman because she's a woman and not because she is his "best friend". Not because she resembles him in his interests, passions, and abilities. The similarity doesn't breed attraction; neither does competitiveness.

Now, what's important here is whether or not you feel happy the way things are right now. If you're happy with the woman you are now and the life you have as it is, then by all means stay with what works.

If you feel stuck in old patterns of being rejected, attracting the wrong types of men, or you can't attract any men at all and beating yourself up about it. Then you should need to consider making a change in your life now!