Is Your Husband Having A Summer Affair?


by Ruth Houston - Date: 2007-04-24 - Word Count: 773 Share This!

Summertime is high season for cheating husbands. Extramarital affairs flourish this time of the year. Many men view summer infidelity as a recreational sport. Some husbands are seasonal cheaters who only cheat when their wives are away on vacation. Other husbands are opportunistic cheaters who cheat only when there's an opportunity do so without getting caught. For all three types of cheating men, summer is the ideal time to initiate an extramarital affair.

Most Summer Affairs Go Undetected

According to statistics, 50% to 70% of husbands cheat on their wives. A good percentage of these affairs take place during the summer months. Most of this infidelity goes undetected. Studies reveal that 2/3 of women whose husbands are cheating have no idea their husbands are having an affair. These cheating husbands have several ways hide their summer affairs.

Husbands Play When the Wife is Away

Some husbands routinely send the wife and kids to the beach, the lake, the country, or to visit relatives in another state. What's your husband up to while you and the kids are away? Do you know where he is, who he's with, or how he's spending his time? Instead of sitting home alone eating a TV dinner, he could be wining and dining his ladylove.

Fictitious Fishing Trips and other Lies

Cheating husbands frequently disguise vacations with their mistress as fishing, camping or rafting trips with the guys. Men know that outdoor activities and other forms of male bonding are unlikely to be questioned by their wives. Is he really hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies? Or is he soaking up sun in St. Thomas with his summer sweetheart?

Bogus Business Trips

Trysts with the mistress are often disguised as bogus business trips. Even valid business trips can provide the perfect opportunity to cheat away from prying eyes. While he's attending that summer business conference without you, a budding office romance could blossom into a full blown affair. Are his trips occurring more frequently or lasting longer than usual? Has he tacked on an extra day or two before or after a legitimate business trip so he can spend the time with his lover?

Suspicious Separate Vacations

Has your husband suggested that the two of you take separate vacations this year? Do you know where he plans to go, or who he'll be vacationing with? He could be laying the groundwork for a summer affair. Will he be living it up in Las Vegas with his lover while you're indulging in a week of pampering at a spa? If you have reason to suspect that your husband could be cheating, you may want to re-think your summer plans.

What to Do About His Summer Affair

If you see telltale signs of a summer affair developing or actually taking place, speak up! Ignoring it won't make it go away. Let your husband know you're aware of what's going on and tell him you want it to stop. If you let him think he's getting away with his affair or that he has your silent approval, he'll feel free to do it again next summer. Or worse, he may continue it throughout the year. Though summer affairs usually have a built-in expiration date, some cheaters turn their summer flings into a permanent state of affairs. Your husband could become so attached to his mistress, that he moves in with her or asks you for a divorce.

How to Prevent a Summer Affair

Does this mean you should forego renting that beach house for the summer or put that 2-week trip to your parents on hold? If you've seen suspicious behavior or signs of infidelity during the past few weeks or months, this is not a good time for you to be away.

If your husband is a seasonal or opportunistic cheater, don't make it easy for him to cheat. Stay close to home, keep tabs on him, and stay alert. Follow the suggestions my tip sheet, "How to Prevent or Short-Circuit Your Husband's Summer Affair." Plan your summer so he won't have the time or the opportunity to get involved in a summer affair. Safeguard your marriage by putting some checks and balances in place. Plan summer activities for the whole family and a several romantic weekends for two. Heed this advice, and you won't have to wonder where your husband is this summer -- you'll know, because he'll be right there with you.

FREE Tip Sheet on Summer Affairs

To request a FREE tip sheet which lists the telltale signs of a summer affair and includes tips on how to short circuit your husband's summer affair, or prevent him from having one at all, send an e-mail to InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with "Summer Infidelity-isn" in the subject line.


Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of http://InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. For more infidelity information, or to see a list of other FREE infidelity tip sheets available, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.comn
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