Relationships, How to Save Your Relationship - If I Give My Heart To You What Do I Get Back In Return?


by KACY CARR - Date: 2008-04-12 - Word Count: 752 Share This!

Why do most people in a relationship nearly always expect something in return from their partner after donating a gift, giving a compliment or want a favour done because you loaned them ten pounds. A person that gives and wants nothing back in return is one to be admired for their unselfishness.

This behaviour is a popular cause why many relationships break up. How many of you can relate too "I got you something, now where is mine" or "but mine cost more than yours, or even words to this affect "you spent more on them than me". Is this the behaviour of a nice thoughtful person?

Okay, it is nice to be on the receiving end of a good will gesture I agree, but if this is not the case for you after making a donation, then bite your lip and accept no reciprocation, the receiver will now see you as an unselfish loving human being. Loving people are nice people to be around and even more so if you have a partnership with them.

Most partnerships fail to last because of many important issues like, infidelity, possessiveness and having no trust in your partner. For those who have suffered the intolerable pain and heartache when the love of their life walked out on their relationship will no doubt be looking for answers why, or looking to prevent losing another when coupled again.

Several steps can be taken to avoid endangering a relationship or putting a marriage on the rocks. First let us take notes on the causes of break ups and work on them.

In recent study, men and women who were approached on the matter confessed to being feared that they were not good enough for their partner in many ways. Some thought they were too ugly and others feared they were not rich enough. These type of fears need to be ignored and brushed aside. Ask your self, If your partner at the time of meeting was concerned over these issues then why did they continue to involve them self in your life. Your partner fell in love with you and not the imaginary person you think they would like you to be. This type of fear can damage your relationship seriously.

A breakdown of a past relationship can cause you to act in a way that your new partner finds hard to handle. If your past parting was through jealousy then you know that you have to learn from this. Trust is important from both parties in a relationship.

Another raised concern was that they felt unloved or not understood.

If your partner does not conform in their actions to making you feel protected does not mean they love you any less. You must control intrusive thoughts where you feel unloved because thought control can result in saving your relationship from ending. Never take your partner for granted, keep the relationship alive, let the flame of desire burn. Couples can drift apart because of this. There needs to be intimacy and connection at all times because loneliness will prevail when the closeness has gone.

Put your relationship first making it your number one priority in your life. You need to set aside time to be together, talk, sing, and dance whatever it takes to put back the sparkle in each others eyes. Express love and appreciation at every convenient moment.

Try not to criticize your partner, this is a big mistake made in many relationships.

If harsh words are spoken more often than not, your partner will naturally go on the defence. Love can turn to hate because of this. Before pin pointing blame or judging your partner on his or her bad habits take a moment to breathe and think. Threats accusations and arguments can drive you further apart. Tell your heart to listen before jumping the gun i.e. criticising your partner's behaviour.

Jumping head first into another relationship without clearing your head of past emotions and feelings can cause problems. A broken heart needs to be healed to move on with your life. Your new partner may sense your sadness - leaving him/her with a feeling of worthlessness or wanting to step into your last lover's footsteps or worst case scenario, do a runner.

You should never blame yourself for a past loss or broken relationship; however you can blame your behaviour, both of what can be worked upon to secure a life lasting relationship.

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