Men Fake Orgasms -- A Condition Known As Nonexistent Ejaculation


by Maria Anderson - Date: 2007-10-09 - Word Count: 725 Share This!

While out on the town with my girlfriends the topic of male orgasms came up. Half way through our conversation, one friend asked, "Have you ever been with a man that faked an orgasm?" Silence and perplexed looks followed from the rest of us. I voiced what we were all thinking, "Why would a man fake it?" We were all stumped. I promised the girls that I was going to do some research, interview my male friends, and even ask random guys. I was determined to get to the bottom of this! The following is what I uncovered.

Revealing the Shocking Truth

I began my search for answers by going straight to Michael James, VP of Development for MatchRanger.com, one the internet's leading online dating sites. He agreed to post a survey asking men and women if they had ever faked orgasms. The response was overwhelming. While women still lead the way for orgasm fakers, men are doing it much more often than we women realize!

It's Not a Myth!

Next, I began to interview men on my own. Surprisingly, many of the men I asked confessed to faking at least one orgasm in their lifetime. In fact, a few of the men even admit to being serial fakers. Apparently this is one of those unspoken male truths. One man even blushed, gave me a funny look and whispered to me, "What have you heard?"

Reason #1 Men Fake It -- They Care About Our Feelings

When I asked men why they had, 'faked it' most mentioned their partners feelings. The same was true for the men who completed our survey on MatchRanger.com. Some men claimed that they didn't want to give their partner insecurity issues. Others said that they were afraid their partner would think they were doing something wrong.

What I realized was that men are more sensitive to our feelings than we give them credit for. In fact, they care about our feelings so much that they're willing to put on
Oscar worthy performances just to make us happy!

Reason #2 Men Fake It -- They Don't Want To Appear Unmanly

Upon initial investigation, it appeared that men directly tie their orgasm to their manliness. However, as I inquired further I realized that this was not the case at all. Men think that women tie their orgasm to their manliness. The fear is that we women will judge men's masculinity if they fail to achieve orgasm.
I'm here to tell you guys that most women will not tie your manliness to your orgasm or lack thereof. Hey, we never question our femininity based on our orgasms. So cut yourselves some slack!

Reason #3 Men Fake It -- They're Tired

Men, like women, are just plain old tired sometimes. We have this image of men that all they think about and want is sex 24/7. Men on MatchRanger.com reported that while they almost always do want sex, they are sometimes just too exhausted to orgasm. The thought of explaining this to their partner seems even more exhausting! The easiest way out seems to be, to just fake it.

Reason #4 Men Fake It -- Uncontrollable Circumstances

Men also cited issues such as uncomfortable condoms, too much masturbation or sex already that day, having too much to drink, or certain medications (such as antidepressants).
I'm here to tell men that these all seem like valid reasons for 'nonexistent ejaculation'. Unless, of course, you've had too much sex with someone other than your committed partner - In which case you're better off faking it!

Reason #5 Men Fake It -- He's Just Not That Into You

As Greg Baron, author and host of the Greg show would say, "He's just not that into you." The good news is that the chances that your man feels this way about you are slim to none. The only men who cited this reason said that they picked up a woman in a drunken state and didn't know her.

The Silver Lining

What I realized in my research is that the gap between the sexes may be a little closer than we think. Overall, men fake orgasms for many of the same reasons that women do.

If you happen to discover that your man has faked it a few times, don't despair. Apparently, it's quite common. He probably only did it because he either cares about your feelings or he's worried about what you'll think of him.

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Maria Anderson is America's hottest dating coach. For years she has been showing singles how to meet and be successful at the dating game. For more proven dating advice check out:www.OnlineDateDr.com

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