If It Is To Be, It's Up To Me!
- Date: 2007-08-17 - Word Count: 389
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So what is this stuff all about? Fundamentally, everything is about Personal responsibility. In life, we attract everything that happens to us. Most people can accept that they are responsible for the good in their lives but very few will accept that they attract the bad as well. So to change my circumstance, I have to change myself.
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
Life Coaching is all about creating that inner change and helping people to grow personally. All of us at this time are the sum of every single decision, no matter how small, made up until this moment. Even "not making" a decision is an absolute choice. So every experience we have had has forced us to make a decision and in that process, we change as a consequence. This does not mean that are either good or bad. We are just what we are at this time. For example, two children have an alcoholic father.
Based on their individual perceptions, one will choose to be like his Dad and become an alcoholic and one will choose to be the opposite of his Dad and become totally temperate. Personal growth and Individual change takes place whenever we face an uncomfortable situation and work out some way to deal with it. This is the so-called "Growing Edge." When your whole body is screaming not to do something because you are scared stiff, and you do it any way, you grow as a person.
What Life Coaching is about is to help you become aware of the choices you are making (mostly automatically out of habit) and establish the consequences if you continue. The coach then will also encourage you to perhaps take a different path. At no time does (or must) he take any responsibility for your decision and actions. (In fact, run a mile if you find yourself asking what to do and then doing what the coach tells you!) The reason is that if it goes wrong, who are you going to blame? And if it goes right, to whom are you going to give the credit? You are responsible for the Good, and the Bad.
Sharing experiences on how you have coped with a particularly difficult situation will help and inspire others who may want to use your solution. And in the Giving and the Receiving, both gain. To your continued personal development.
Roger Bourne
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NB. Roger Bourne has been involved in Public Speaking, Personal Development and Coaching for more than 30 years. His business career includes roles such as CEO and Managing Director of medium to large size companies, in many different industries and countries. www.stuffaboutlifecoaching.com/ Your Article Search Directory : Find in Articles
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