There are lots of factors influencing our self-esteem. One of the most important - is self talk. Humans' brain is made in such a way, that it always have to communicate with someone, and if there is no one around to communicate with at a particular time - the brain starts communicating with itself. Actually these are conscious and subconscious minds that interact with each other. Subconscious mind mostly talks and conscious mind mostly listens. This happens until you take it into your conscious control. The moment you do that, you become the master of yourself.

To understand how that works, we have to discover some facts about our subconscious mind. Our subconscious is an information storage, which we develop during the lifetime. Everything we hear, see, taste, smell and touch stays in our mind. If you always hear that you are silly, ugly, bad, unworthy, you subconsciously learn that information. So if you heard others saying how stupid you are, you will be afraid to make decisions, ask questions, express your opinion, and say "no". You will feel anxious and incapable to do the things you want.

If someone at school has always told you that you are ugly, you probably would have problem communicating with other people, because your inner voice will tell you that you are ugly and unworthy to talk to these people.

If you see people blaming and complaining your inner voice will act the same. Every time something happens the voice within will start blaming and complaining about the situation. You won't be able to analyze the situation and learn from it.

Our subconscious will always distract us from what we want, and will make us feel miserable unless we say "stop". The only way we can increase our self-esteem is to take a control over our subconscious and reprogram it. From now on make a decision to become aware of your thoughts. Every time you hear it saying that you are stupid, ugly, and not able to do something, just make conscious corrections by saying that you are beautiful, smart, and capable to do whatever it is. Repeat it for several times and you will feel much better about yourself.

A good exercise to increase your self-esteem using self talk - is a mirror exercise. All you have to do is to look into the mirror and proudly say all good stuff about yourself. Do it for at least some thirty days, until you truly believe everything you say. It feels a little weird, but, believe me, it works. In such a manner you can reprogram your subconscious. Every time you need its help it will tell you how perfect you are, you just have to teach it. You can use some affirmations from below:

I deserve to be loved
I am smart and beautiful
Everyday and in every way I am getting better and better
I radiate confidence and relaxation
I have sky-high self-esteem
I can ask for whatever I want and get whatever I desire
I can accomplish every goal I set
I am a worthy person
I like myself

Talk to yourself positively. You are the person you talk with the most of the time. If you always hear from yourself how perfect you are, unconsciously you will feel and act the same way. Your self-esteem will develop. Be proud of yourself, say thanks to yourself, love and respect yourself. Increase you self-esteem, by using such an easy technique. Just remember to say to yourself that you are wonderful and unique creature of the universe, worthy for a dream life!