Has it ever happened to you? Have you ever had the
experience of liking a woman, being a perfect gentleman,
and treating her like a queen, only to have her reject
you in favor of someone else (possibly very handsome)
who doesn't treat her right, or doesn't seem to care
about her much at all? These kinds of men have been
called "bad boys," "charm boys," or "players." When
you are interested in women, do they tend to see you
as a friend or "brother" rather than a romantic
interest? Do women tell you you're "too nice"? If so,
you are not alone. This article will give you, the
nice guy, some tips on how to use charm-boy traits to
your advantage, while retaining your nice-guy values.

Let's brainstorm for a minute. What makes charm boys or
players attractive? They are fun, spontaneous, unpredictable,
mysterious, and act as if they don't care what others think
of them (also known as confidence). They follow their own
rules and don't let others (including their dates) walk all
over them. And they often look good.

So what can you do? You don't have to engage in risk-taking
behaviors in order to succeed with women. Suggest some
"safe" ideas on the spur of the moment; for example, "Let's
go get some sushi/ice cream/a Margarita," or, "Let's go for
a drive and see where we end up." If this is not the usual
"you," you may enjoy your new-found spontaneity. You can be
mysterious/unpredictable without violating your principles.
Don't call her the day after getting her phone number or the
day after a date. Give her time to wonder whether you'll
call; keep her guessing. People often want what isn't easy
to get, and women like a little challenge.

You're the man. Many women are looking for men who are
confident and decisive, who can be relied on to get things
done. On a date, take command but don't be pushy. Always
have a Plan A and a Plan B, so you don't miss the concert
just in case the restaurant loses your reservation and
there's a 1-1/2-hour wait. But always be flexible, in case
your date hates Chinese food, for example, or she just
told you her favorite musical group is in town, tonight
only. Low-cost dates conducive to getting to know each
other include the zoo, a museum, or miniature golf. In
addition to saving you money, these low-cost dates also
minimize the feeling that you have to "spoil" her or
"buy" her affection with an extravagant wining-and-dining
evening. And if she likes you, she won't mind a "cheap
" date; she just wants to be with you.

Keep it light and upbeat. Don't be needy or act nervous.
You might be a bit anxious while on a date, but she doesn't
need to know that. Keep things light and humorous, and pay
attention to her. That in itself will help you take the focus
off you and help you feel more confident. And be a gentleman
(you're already good at this). For example, always offer to
pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, open doors for
her, etc. But don't overdo the gifts, lest you appear desperate.

Let her talk. This is where nice guys have an advantage.
Most women like to communicate verbally and welcome the
chance to be heard. (But make sure you listen; don't just
let your mind wander.) She will be impressed if you
remember details about things that are important to her,
such as her pet's name or her favorite book. If you met
her online, review her profile for questions you can
ask her about her interests.

Neatness counts. Take another hint from the charm boys.
You don't have to be a Brad Pitt look-alike, but make
the most of what you have. Review your grooming,
clothes, and accessories with an objective eye. If you
want feedback, ask a friend--possibly a female friend--for
honest input. Or tune into one of the new TV shows which
focus on wardrobe/grooming tips for men.

Have a life (and a backbone). Just because you are dating a
woman doesn't mean you drop everything else (including your
own friends, hobbies, and interests). After all, relationships
can come and go. Keep being yourself. You are not always at
her beck and call. When you really don't want to do something
(for example, if she wants you to cancel your ballgame or night
out with your friends to go shoe shopping with her), it's okay
to decline. Telling her no may be difficult for nice guys, but
if she's worth keeping, she will respect you for this and value
her time with you more. To soften the blow, you might offer her
an alternative get-together. For example, "Sorry I can't make it
on Saturday. How about I take you to that new play you've been
wanting to see on Sunday instead?"

How does she rate? Remember: You have the right to evaluate
her, not just the other way around. Does she deserve a second
date? Is she relationship material (if that's what you're
looking for)? Just because she's attractive/smart/classy
doesn't necessarily mean she's right for you. Does she treat
you well? Is she kind? Does she have decent self-esteem? Is
she giving? If you're looking for a long-term relationship,
can you see yourself still with her in 20 years, when some of
the supermodel looks may have begun to fade?

The good news for nice guys is that as women get older, perhaps
having survived a bad-boy heartbreak or two, they are more
likely to appreciate nice guys. Make a list of your good points,
the qualities you have to offer. Keep at it. And start believing
that you are a catch (or at least act like it)!


Article written by Mark Jones.



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