How To Get A Girlfriend In Bars - Clubs and Any Other Public Venue


by Rick Dalton - Date: 2006-12-21 - Word Count: 461 Share This!

1. Get yourself a cool look. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to get women. For the most part, just caring about how you look is enough. Wear new clothes that fit (and make sure you're bathed... please.)

2. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women immediately lower their value. Go out with your friends to a bar or club (or any public place) and start out by genuinely having a good time. Let other women notice you and how sociable you are.

3. "Plant some seeds". Flirt casually with waitresses. Make a passing comment and smile to a girl walking by. Toast a woman at the bar. Then go back to having a good time with your friends. In short time, you'll notice women slowly gravitating to you.

4. Qualify them. Don't be a jerk about it... but in a fun, playful way, make her prove her value to you. Something as simple as "Are you open-minded? Cool, because I only talk to open-minded people." can put you in control of the exchange.

5. Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself that you can relate to. WARNING: If she gives you something like "Oh, I like to go shopping", don't reward her for that. It's not unique. Instead, ask for more information and then connect with it.

6. Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. "You know, I just realized it. Not only are you sexy, but you're fun to talk to."

7. Tell her you gotta go. Always be the first to end the exchange. (It keeps 'em wantin' more!) Get her number. Give her your phone, tell her "put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine." That way she'll be more likely to give you her real number.

8. Go back with your friends and call her in a few days.

Tips

! Don't buy her drinks. It shows too much interest, plus it gives off the whole "I'm buying your acceptance" idea to a lot of women. Bad idea.

! Don't compliment her when you first meet her. Again, too much interest, and it indicates immediately that you are pursuing HER. We want it to be the other way around.

! Don't be easy. Play hard to get. If a woman tries touching you, tell her "hands off". If she tries to kiss you, tell her "I'm not that easy." Eventually you'll be touching and kissing her ... but at the beginning, make her work for it.


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Rick Dalton is a Chicago area dating and attraction coach, and is the author of The How To Get a Girlfriend Guide at http://www.howtogetagirlfriendguide.com .

His monthly newsletter, The Rick Dalton Report, offers fresh lines, tips and techniques to master attraction conversations with women. Available free to owners of The Guide.

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