If you have a negative attitude to everything it can cause real problem.s It can lead to depression, it could even lead to you loosing your job, sometimes affecting the lives of your loved ones. Some people just always seem to look on the negative side of things no matter how hard they try. This is not always their own fault, it can stem from experiences as a child: for example their parents always criticised them - nothing was ever right, from their school reports, to their hairstyles. However, you can not always blame the parents, it does not always come from the persons upbringing, but there must be an underlying cause of this Negativity.

Everyone can change - it just takes commitment.

For example: It is a rainy, cloudy day. You are late for work as usual. Again you find yourself stuck in a traffic jam. The clock is ticking on. You are going to miss you early morning meeting - again. Are you feeling stressed - you bet you are. Now you are thinking "this is a great start to the day - at least I know what type of day it is going to be". You have already defined what type of day it is going to be - a stressful, troublesome, horrible day.

Did you even bother to have a look around you and see what was happening on the outside world. Did you notice the woman at the bus stop get splashed all over by a passing car - but was laughing about it.

Did you see the little girl jumping in all the puddles with her boots on - having a really great time with a smile that spread from ear to ear. Do you see the person looking up into the sky and just feeling the rain on their face - enjoying the moment. These things do happen, it is just that people are so wrapped up in their own problems, they do not see things 'out of the box'.

You have got to try and enjoy your life. Appreciate what you have. Take time to notice the little things. Remember things in life that you have achieved - remember the feeling. Start imagining yourself how you want to be.

A great exercise, but can be very hard for many people to perform. What you have to do is look into a mirror and say out loud: ' I love you', 'you are beautiful', 'you are confident', 'people like being around you', But you must say it with conviction and meaning.

Some people find looking into a mirror and telling themselves 'I love you' an extremely hard, painful thing to do. They may cry, they may not be able to say it at all. Keep trying. You are starting to break the barriers down. They have been there a long time so it may take some work. But it will be worth it.

Positive affirmations do work. You are training your mind to look at yourself in a different way. Re-programming your mind. You can do these on your own. You can use many different alternative therapies such as Self Hypnosis, Meditation, Meditation which is enhanced by Binaural Beats (see below for suggestions)

When you start to see things in a fresh new way, you will notice many things in your life will begin to change. People will comment that you seen different, that you seem so relaxed. You will feel much more at peace with yourself. You will still find yourself in stressful situations, but find that you do not react the way you used to.

I know these changes do not usually happen over night - but they can. The first hardest step is to make the decision to change. To make your life the way you want it to be. Once you train your mind to follow this path, you will notice small changes all the time.

There may be one certain person that always seems to wind you up. All of a sudden you realise that, actually, they don't any more. They do not even ruffle your feathers. Things must be changing.

If you start to meditate, which is always a great thing to do anyway, you will notice these changes happening even quicker and stronger.

If you are at peace with yourself, you will find that most people around you, will start to act the same. It is contagious. It makes them realise how up-tight and stressed they themselves are and unknowingly they will start to copy your example.

So if you are someone who feels, depressed, picked on, stressed, and always looking on the negative side of things. Just look in a mirror and say 'I love you', with strength and commitment. You would then have taken the first step to freedom and the rest of your life. Living the way it should be lived.

(For the Binaural Beats I would suggest possibly using frequencies of 1.0 (which is for feelings of well-being: harmony and balance) 3.5 (feeling of unity with everything: Wholebeing regeneration: remedy for depression and anxiety) and possibly 7.5 ( Inter-awareness of self & purpose; helps find solutions to troublesome problems), and 7.83 ( Earth Resonance, grounding; improved stress tolerance, rejuvenation effects; leaves you feeling revitalized; accelerated healing).