You have probably heard from some people or you may have decided it for yourself that nice guys finish last.

There are many reasons why you may have come to this conclusion but I think that most guys came to this conclusion because of one simple thing:

They see a woman going out with a guy who treats her badly and dumps a guy who treats her nicely.

It is bewildering isn't it?

Women say that they want the kind of guy who would treat them nicely, yet respectively they are going out with guys that treat them badly.

Now the inevitable question is: why?

Why do women say one thing yet in reality do a something completely different?

I guess you have probably heard a lot of answers to this simple, yet problematic question.

For some reason you may have not been content with the answers you got.

So I have another idea!

Instead of me answering your question by providing you with yet another set of answers, let's work together and investigate the THREE PARTS of the question:

Why do nice guys finish last?

1) Why - Who is the person who usually wants to know why things are happening. Surely it is a guy who needs information. This question cannot come from a guy who is content with the information he already has.

If you are confident man, a man who has high self esteem, your mind just can't produce this kind of question. Our questions come from our personality, so a needy man will ask needy questions and a confident man will not ask at all.

2) Nice - What is a nice guy? I am asking this question very seriously.

- Is a nice guy someone who is shy, intimated, or nervous around women?

- Is a nice guy someone who does whatever women tell him to do, like buying gifts in order to get affection in return?

- Is a nice guy a person who text messages women and call them 100 times a day?

3) Finish Last - What do "nice" guys mean when they say that they have finished last?

Normally when a "nice" guy says the words, "finish last", it means that he perceives life as an effort. He feels that he is in some kind of contest with other guys. He seems to be saying that there is the "no nice" team which beats the "nice" team.

Life is not a contest! (I hope it isn't for you anyway).

When you are living a life of continuous effort, trying to achieve some holy grail (in this case a hot women) that you think will be your key to self-esteem, you will radiate to the world neediness and unworthiness.

Examples:

Example 1 - In a coffee shop

Guy: "I have never had such strong feelings for a woman, I love you". Girl: "We just met a few hours ago".

Example 2 - In a restaurant

Guy: "You can order anything you want from the menu, I'll pay for everything". Girl (thinking to herself): "I wonder why he spends so much money on me, we don't even know each other very well...").

Example 3 - A phone conversation

Guy: "Hi, what's up?" Girl: "Nothing changed in the last hour. I really have a lot of work to do in the office can we talk in some other time" Guy: "Ah...ok..." Girl: "I will call you" Guy: "When you finished your work?" Girl: "When I have time, bye..."

I hope that from now on you will focus your powers not on finding right answers to your burning questions but on investigating your current false questions.

Because a question is not really a question, like we were normally led to believe, it is really an answer.

You have certain perceptions in your head that you have accepted over the years as valid truths and these perceptions have gathered together to form your current reality. It is from this reality that your burning FALSE questions are sprung, which you believe are genuine and honest.

You can never have real, ongoing success with women if your desire for success springs from necessity.

Women can sense neediness from miles away. If you dedicate your life to become a man who is self-validated, women will be all over you without you doing anything about it.

It is like standing next to a closed window in your house and shouting for the wind to come inside. It will never work. Instead just open the window, go do something else and the wind will come by its own accord.

Women want a nice guy; don't make it hard for them.