We all make mistakes - this is obvious and hardly anyone will argue it. But we're able to learn on our mistakes and mistakes of other people - this is a certain fact too. Currently you're feeling depressed and totally desperate about your breakup, but your actions are far from being efficient. In this article I'm going to share with you some secrets of how to get over breakup more easier by avoiding the common (and brutal I might add) faults that almost every man and woman make trying to reconcile with their ex after the breakup.

The First Mistake is: begging and trying to make your ex feel sorry for you.

First of all, let's clarify the obvious thing: nobody, I repeat - nobody, is attracted to needy and insecure people. So, if you want to attract your ex again, it's far better to stop this useless strategy and pick another one, more interesting, original and efficient.

So stop contacting your ex for now: phone calls, text messages, voice mail, email etc. This will only reinforce their decision of leaving you and staying away from you. It will probably make them angry, irritated and annoyed - and this is a bad thing for us! Begging and pleading your ex to get back at you may only demean you in their eyes, so they will start almost hating you for this. So don't give them additional reason to go further away from you. At this point you need to maintain your dignity. You will certainly not do this by beseeching them. So change your course of action as fast as you can, otherwise you will ruin your chances of successful reconciliation.

Second Fatal Mistake: using drugs and alcohol as temporary cure for your pain.

I can tell you tat I used this method myself many times in the past and the truth is... It didn't make me happy. At all.... Actually these things actually make things much, much worse. Drinking may help you to relax a little bit, but a depressant like alcohol will only make your burden feel even more heave... After you woke up next morning.

More than that, alcohol can lead to drunk dialing - and this is a killer of your relationships, it will repel them from you... Forever! Trust me at this point. So choose other methods to handle your emotions, more healthy and effective in long-term, not only as temporary relief.

Third Dangerous Pitfall you can fall into: being heavily insulted by the very fact of the break-up.

If you want to stop your breakup fast and easily, I strongly ask you to understand this simple fact: although your pride was possibly damaged, it will only result in a stand-off if you continue to convince yourself of "how bad and guilty" they are and use it as an excuse for continuity of procrastination. Create a plan, stop your depression and start consistent action toward getting over the breakup - this is the only way out.

I sincerely hope that understanding these mistakes and carefully avoiding them along your way to successful reconciliation will go a long way in your happiness and healthy long-lasting relationships after you get your ex back. Good luck!