Are You Tied To Your Circumstances?


by Neel Raman - Date: 2007-02-18 - Word Count: 459 Share This!

What do you think has shaped the way you are and how you live? Do you believe you were conditioned by your upbringing, your environment and that you reflect the way you were brought up?

That might seem to be an easy question to answer for someone who had what they remember as a happy childhood, surrounded by parents or carers. If you were one of those people you might say that you have turned out as a reflection of the values you were brought up with and that you learned from an early age how to love others and to respect yourself.

Has your life always been blessed with good fortune?

And how about if things weren't so easy? That's not something you might find comfortable in facing, that your parents or carers weren't the loving people they could have been, or that you grew up struggling to seize your identity and to make something worthwhile of your life despite all odds.

The truth is, it doesn't matter at all what kind of background you come from if your life right now isn't the most exciting journey possible. It doesn't matter whether you were rich or poor, indulged or deprived. It doesn't even matter if the last few years of your life have been difficult or you've had to battle with the dragons you fear the most. What matters is the here and now. This very moment is all that matters.

You have the power to choose how to live your life. You have the power to reject the influence of a sad childhood, or a terrible time at school. You have the power to resist the urge to stay closed and protected against new relationships and friendships because you've been hurt in the past. You can choose to live your life without regret, blame, isolation or a defended heart.

Blaming others for the quality of your life is a useful strategy to deflect the responsibility away from yourself to someone else, but in doing so you just drown yourself in a sea of unhappiness because your happiness or lack of it is always tied to the past. It is always dependent upon other people. Remember, the past is over unless you choose to live there!

Choose instead to see all those adversities as lessons. See them as important milestones for you to negotiate so as to learn from them and gain a deeper understanding of who you are and what you are searching for.

Choose to interpret your past as a path to personal growth and you will see that you no longer have to remain hidden and safe behind the walls you build to protect yourself from the world.

You really can be free of anything you choose to let go. Choose to be free!


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Neel Raman, is an author, keynote speaker and coach to many. He has written 'Hoops and Freedom', an informative and powerful self-improvement book, in the form of an entertaining fiction story, targeted at those who want and demand more from life. To find out more about this book and his FREE offers, visit: http://www.HoopsAndFreedom.com

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