Is It Really About Time Management…?
By putting off things we know we want to complete, and things we know we "should" do, but do not want to do, we dwell in a self-made purgatory of failure. Sadly, some of us are in this place our entire lives, never finding our way out.
In choosing to live like this, on some level, we intentionally set ourselves up to fail. How can we feel good about ourselves, and perform better at tasks important to us, when we feel like a failure all the time? We also prevent ourselves from experiencing success, and achieving our full potential.
This choice disrupts our careers and personal lives, sometimes with dire consequences. When we feel bad about ourselves, in no matter how small an area, these negative feelings permeate and influence our entire lives. As a result, we are not able to "be" or "do" our very best. We continue to feel bad and we hold ourselves back, not expressing our true talents, skills, and unique gifts.
Why do we do this? It seems so contradictory. We want to feel good about ourselves and embrace the success that often follows, yet we purposely set ourselves up to fail. Doing this seals our fate.
Many do not feel we deserve success. Some of us have been so beaten down by others, past failures, and limiting beliefs that we are more comfortable dwelling in familiar failure than taking risks that might bring us success.
If we were successful, we would have to reexamine our feelings about ourselves, and perhaps think and act differently. How often have you heard someone put him or herself down with a negative statement when they receive a compliment?
If we truly felt good about ourselves, we might have to say, why thank you yes, I am good at time management… (or at least we would think it).
If we were allowed to experience success, we could begin to see ourselves the way we want to be instead of how we are "used to" seeing ourselves.
What can we do about this? In the workshop, I suggested addressing procrastination with three steps that also apply in this scenario.
The First Step is to acknowledge you are doing this, and ask yourself if this is what you want in life? If the answer is no, then, ask, what do I want? How do I want to feel about myself?
Step 2 is to resolve it. Conduct research on yourself. Write about it non-stop three pages, without editing while answering the question, "What's it going to take from me to be successful in this, or What do I want to create in my life, or How do I want to feel about myself?"
Step 3 is move forward, look at the bigger picture, and my vision for myself. What do I want to create in my life?
Do not allow past failures, or situations, limiting beliefs, or a fear of success sabotage you in creating what you want in your life. So begin to transform your life today, starting with you.
By the way, did you know that February noted for the following events? National African American History Month International Expect Success Month International Self Esteem Month National Time Management Month
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Patricia Eslava Vessey is a life and wellness coach, business coach, workshop presenter, personal trainer, group fitness instructor, lifestyle and weight management consultant, motivational speaker and published author.
Her lifelong passion of helping others their full potential is evident in her nearly 30-year career providing social work services to children, families, individuals, and groups. Well over half of those years have been in leadership positions, coaching, mentoring, and inspiring others to both discover and be their best.
Patricia loves to help others achieve their fitness and wellness goals too, while creating meaningful and fun experiences. Her energetic, popular, and creative classes have inspired others for almost 27 years now, and they keep coming back for more!
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