When your boyfriend ends your relationship, all you can think of is getting him back as fast as possible. That sort of mind set will cause you to make mistakes and eventually end your relationship for good. If you want to get your ex back, you have to know how to get back in his life. That will require you to contact him and that is the tricky part.

If you try to force yourself back into his life by telling him you cannot live without him, he will pull farther away. So, you will have to exercise patience and take it slow. He broke up with you for a reason and to get your ex back, you need to give him a reason to want you again. The ideal way of having contact with your ex is to make him contact you.

You can do that if you have the patience and discipline to give him up for a while. How long should you give him up? This is where many women lose the battle. You have to have no contact with him for at least a month. That might seem like a century to you, but it will take that long for your ex to begin to miss you. Unless you can make him miss you and want you back, it will be over.

You need to make him want you back, and the only way that will happen is to let him experience life without you. As long as you keep trying to get him back by staying in his face that cannot happen. In order to get back in his life, you have to get completely out of his life for a while. Nothing will get an ex boyfriends attention faster than being ignored.

When he broke up with you, he expected you to come after him, crying and begging. If you have already been doing that, you need to stop immediately. If you have not been chasing him, don't start. By ignoring him and disappearing from his life, he will be curious as to why you are not trying to get him back. Before long, he will be wondering if you have found another boyfriend.

All of this will take a month or more, so as I said to begin with you have to have patience. But, after the suitable time has passed it will be time to make contact with him. There are many ways of doing that, the Internet offers several, such as face book, my space and of course email. You might even think of sending a text message or giving him a phone call. But, the best way to contact your ex boyfriend after a breakup is face to face.

You know where he hangs out, so it should be easy to 'accidentally' run into him. You will want to look your best and act surprised to see him. Be cheerful and friendly, but don't hang around. After some small talk tell him you are sorry, but you are meeting some people and have to go. Then add that it was nice seeing him and you would like to talk some more. Tell him he has your number and feel free to call.

This is an easy way to establish contact with your ex and get things going, so you can get back in his life. When the communication starts again, it will not be long before you will be dating again.