Preparing for Remarriage: Time is Your Friend
Unfortunately, this ideal picture is not an option for the step-couple. One or both of you may have children of your own when the "I do's" are said. This equals instant family. Your needs as a couple, to have time to bond and strengthen your marriage, are still present though. At the same time, your children have needs that must be met as well. It ends up being quite a balancing act. What inevitably happens is that you will feel pulled in both directions because there usually is competition for your attention. So how does one master this balancing act? The answer is with time and patience.
You need to understand a dynamic in step-families. If you are a biological parent then you and your children are the "insiders" of that family unit. If you are the step-parent, you are the "outsider". Step-families do NOT instantly blend as people assume. In fact, "blending" is a horrible term to use because it assumes everyone wants to become the same. All of you came from different situations and are unique individuals. The goal should be to combine as best as possible. Everyone should honor who the other people in the family are. It takes a long time for everyone to get to that point. Even longer for everyone to be able to get along and possibly like this new situation. It's important to understand this and give your stepfamily the time it needs to make it through the typical growth stages that it will go through. One of the worst things you can do is to try to force it along. Unfortunately this happens quite frequently because people get uncomfortable with the fact that the family isn't functioning as a "normal" family. They are! It's just that it's a normal STEP-family.
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