Empathising With Victims of Romance Scams


by Alan Prince - Date: 2007-01-02 - Word Count: 404 Share This!

For people who have been victims of romance scams, getting over that sad episode in their life could be very difficult. The moment when a scam victim discovers that he or she was being deceived all along is a very painful and sad moment indeed.

Many anti-scam authorities focus only on the financial losses of the romance scam victims. But compared to the monetary losses, the emotional losses are often greater. The victim is typically emotionally devastated after the romance scam. Some of them cry all night, or for days on end.

And to make matters worse, they have to contend with criticism, disapproval, embarrassments and rejection by family, friends, colleagues at work and others who may get to hear of the scam.

Hardly do victims get the much needed support and understanding that they so desperately need. As a result, many people who have experienced romance scams keep the incidences to themselves, rather than tell others.

A lady in France who had lost some amount said she felt so stupid having to tell her son of her loss. She had to bear the shame of being told by her son that she was a fool for having lost money.

Another lady in the United States was literally treated as an outcast by her family members. They even refused to listen to her side of the story or to her explanations about the whole sequence of events.

These are a few of the typical stories of victims of romance scams, and their experiences at the hands of those who are close to them, who normally should have supported them.

What victims of romance scams need is not antagonism, or criticism. What they need is support from all and sundry.

No matter the mistakes they might have made, the very first reaction of other people, especially those close to them should not be to criticize them. They should be accepted for who they are, and comforted in their moments of trial. They should be shown compassion and kindness.

Later on, with time, corrections can be made as to what they did wrong. But when they have been scammed, they need the understanding of everyone around them, most especially their loved ones.

As more people rally round the victims of romance scams, they will get to heal easily and faster. And as a result of their recovery, they will be in a better position to help educate others and stop the scams from affecting more people.


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Alan Prince has counselled and helped many victims of romance scams in recovering from their experiences.He has also encouraged many of them to find true love again.Read more about his work at http://www.elovedeceptions.com.You can also read his blog on http://www.alanprince.blogspot.com

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