It's easy to blame Karma for what we're experiencing. I know I've found myself into a not so pleasant "friendship" because I've not wanted to confront the person or situation. Now I realize if I had stepped back and saw the situation for what it was instead of excusing behavior and ignoring my intuition, I could have stopped my own hurt and confusion much earlier than I did. Many, many times I said it was my Karma with this person. I now realize that even though that was true, I forgot the main reason why we experience Karma in the first place - to make that Karma change so I could learn my Soul's message and move on.

It is true that we are playing out the Karmic ties. It's all over our lives. Our mothers were our brothers, our fathers our daughters, our bosses our lovers or children - souls continue to dance around in many lives together until they learn the teachings they came on Earth to play out. These relationships are no accidents. Before we came to Earth, we played "Let's Make a Deal" with these other souls. Our contracts with them were to be in training with other Souls to transform those relationships and ourselves.

However, what we have to be careful of is that we don't let ourselves become passive or complacent in the situation. Part of working out the karma is to make a change and not to let ourselves fall into the same path we've been experiencing through this lifetime and others.

Karma is something that helps us grow, not a crutch for us to lean on so we don't do anything about it. In other words, if we have a boss that is being really rude and not respecting our boundaries, it's not okay just to say, "Oh, that's my Karma". Sure, maybe you've done something in a past life to be dominant over this person, maybe they are a part of your soul group, whatever it is, that's okay! Your work now is to CHANGE or TRANSMUTE that Karma. If you don't, that karmic relationship repeats over and over in different places until you step up and say, "Enough is Enough."

Saying "Enough is Enough" can be a challenge, isn't it? However, if you don't, you may find yourself looking at the same lessons over and over again, watching them get worse until the message finally hits you over the head with what I call the metaphysical 2x4 piece of wood. It will develop into a situation where you finally have to confront it, whether or not you want to do so. Stop it before it gets to that point - make a move as soon as your soul starts to gently nudge you into action. It may be tricky but it's less dramatic to take care of it sooner than later. I'm sure you can think back to some events where if you had just said something earlier in the experience, it would not have been as explosive or complex to solve.

That's the point. Your Karma is your blessing, as hard as some days that is to believe. Your Karma is helping your soul to grow by saying, "I have the power in me to make a difference in how this is played out." It may be unpleasant, even messy, but it may also be the most beautiful experience you've ever had. Honoring yourself and your contracts on this planet is part of your Soul's Purpose of being here.

How do I change Karma?

If you find yourself in a place where you want to understand what the connection is with Karma, you can do a meditation to figure out what the correlation is and what you can do about it. For example, say you have a tenacious relationship with one of your employees. They are really difficult and you know it's nothing that can be associated with your management skills or the company. It may be something personal going on in the employee's life but you can't be sure. First, get yourself into a quiet place so you can connect with your higher self or spirit, whoever you so choose, to get some answers. You can use soft music, if you'd like, but it's not necessary. Sit with a notebook so you can write down the answers you receive. Make sure you're in a place you won't be disturbed. Also, try not to do this meditation right before bed or if you're sleepy. Make sure you can be clear and aware of what comes to you - it'll be worthwhile information.

The following meditation is a way you can get some answers about your possible Karmic situation: When in the meditation, ask yourself for guidance on the situation with your employee - is it Karmic or is it something that you've created in this lifetime?

Next ask, "What am I supposed to learn from this situation with my employee?"

Regardless of whether it is Karmic or this lifetime made, ask "How can I change this situation with my employee?"

You may also ask, "If appropriate for me to know, what will change with this situation if and when I take action?" (You may be told not to take action at this time in the last question.)

Then ask, "Is there anything else I need to know about this situation?" (It may not be important for you to know any other lives with the person or more information, that is also okay.)

Close out your meditation.

You can always try this through automatic writing or however else you receive your guidance. If you're not sure how to do any of this work, that's okay, try one or more of these techniques and see which one feels the most comfortable and effective for you. You can also seek out a teacher, a book or a website to help you along. It's yours to experiment with now.

It could take several meditations to receive any information. You may also want to check in as you make changes to see what alternative messages you receive.

The most important piece to know about Karma is that you are in control of how you handle, manage and change your Karma. Don't lean on "Oh, it's my Karma" without doing anything about it. Yes, it's yours Karmic contract and it's also your life to lead.

You making your life the most fulfilling it can be by working through the Karma lesson book. By doing that, you're creating a new type of Karma - the one that fulfills your Soul's Lessons.

Throw those spiritual crutches away! You're in control of your Karma and now you can lean on yourself.

Copyright 2006, Mary D'Alba