Gals, do you sometimes feel that the only way you can really get close to your guy is to gulp down booze while you cuddle up to him on the sofa and watch sports on TV? Guys, do you envision a room full of perfumed candles, sentimental music, and hours of effort as the only way to get your gal in the mood?

Guess what?

Many guys don't really care all that much about sports. They watch the big game (and enjoy it), but sometimes their sports interest is sparked by boredom or a quest for subject matter to discuss with the guys at work. They would rather go to a museum opening or on a wine-tasting tour. (Remember 'Frasier'?) Some men are invigorated by a debate or an argument with an intelligent woman - followed by a particularly ardent reconciliation afterwards.

Many women nowadays are actually so busy (and tired) that they don't want to spend hours being romanced. They may be particularly receptive to seemingly mild love scenes during a TV program - or a thoughtful gesture, like her guy remembering the anniversary of their first kiss with a single rose.

You can't peghole anyone. We are all different.

While planning a romantic getaway together, you and your partner should be prepared to make some concessions to the other person's likes and dislikes. It is highly unlikely that you will agree on everything.

If one of you likes camping, but the other doesn't, perhaps a backpacking trip would be ideal. You can spend days in the great outdoors - and nights in a romantic cabin with strawberries and chocolate sauce in the refrigerator, truffles on the bed, and heated Jacuzzi on the back deck. Relax in front of a real fireplace while you feed one another strawberries. You can practice your massage skills in the Jacuzzi by soothing those tired hiking muscles.

If you are flying to Vegas because one of you likes gambling, plan to tour the M+M and Coca Cola factories. Travel the show circuit and watch fantastic entertainers like Cirque du Soleil, famous singers, and extraordinary magic acts. Perhaps spend an evening strolling hand-in-hand down the strip, gazing at the lights and hotels along the way.

The locale of a romantic getaway is not nearly as important as the company and ambiance. Treat one another with love and respect before, during, and after your getaway. Don't be afraid to show a bit of affection in public - perhaps holding hands, whispering sweet nothings to one another, and silently mouthing 'I love you' from across the table during supper. Order one dessert and two forks or one milkshake with two straws. Talk about something that won't provoke a disagreement. Avoid topics like work, relatives, kids (if you have them), and household renovations.

Every romantic getaway is a product of thoughtful planning and respect for your partner's desires. It is not a place or an activity, but a state of mind that can continue into every day of the year.

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