Preparing for Remarriage: Only the Bravest Need Apply


by Alyssa Johnson - Date: 2006-12-19 - Word Count: 320 Share This!

As the wedding date draws near, the reality of the decision you are about to make becomes clearer. Not only are you marrying this person, whom you love, but you are also inheriting their children. This is the beginning of a stepfamily.

What you need to be prepared for is that stepfamilies are busy! There are many people with many schedules, heading in many directions. Life gets hectic. That is a reality. Determination is a necessary ingredient to make them succeed.

As a couple you will need to be determined to carve out time together and then follow through on it. Many obstacles will get in the way. This is a new marriage after all, and you do require time to be together and grow as a married couple. Maintaining that relationship as well as helping it to mature needs to be a priority or the entire family will disintegrate.

You must also be determined to show your children that you have not forgotten them. Make time to carve out with them as well. I don't just mean as a big happy family. I mean you and your kids only. It's not unusual for biological families to split up and do different things together. A mom and daughter may go shopping while the father and son go to a football game. You don't always have to include your new spouse or the entire stepfamily. In fact, at the beginning of a stepfamily this type of separation is essential. A solid stepfamily is developed over time, not instantly created after the wedding. As time passes and everyone grows closer together, more shared activities are developed and will be accepted.

Sound exhausting? Sure it does! That's a lot of needs to meet. We haven't even discussed your own! While it is a lot of effort, the rewards will include a strong, healthy marriage which will help stabilize your stepfamily as it continues to grow and mature.


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Visit http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com for more information on how to prepare as a couple and a family for remarriage. Subscribe today to the Remarriage Success Tips E-Zine at http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com/e-zine.htm for more helpful articles to guide you on your step-family preparation journey. Alyssa Johnson, MSW, LCSW is the founder and CEO of Remarriage Success. She may be reached through her website at http://www.Remarriagesuccess.com

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