Being Authentic With Your Feelings


by Enoch Tan - Date: 2006-12-07 - Word Count: 1873 Share This!

Be authentic with your feelings. Know what you really want and don't look away from it. Know how you really feel and why it is so. Don't reframe your feelings away by reinterpreting the situation. By doing so, you will not be facing the real problem. You will miss out something you should discover. You must know when to perceive and when to control your mental operations.

There are times when it is right to change your feelings by reframing your mind, but there are also times when you should not try to change them but to experience them instead. Your feelings are meant to be used and not discarded. Let your actions flow with your feelings, they are there for a purpose. Always ride on your positive emotions whenever you can.

When you are unhappy, it is because you are not getting what you want. Allow yourself to be authentic about what you want and to feel the desire. Desire force attracts what you want towards you. Desire directs your will towards willing it to happen. Follow your desire, it brings you to your place in the universe. Focus on what you want or need and you will get it. Focus on God and God will Be in your life.

Sometimes negative emotions are meant for you to make use of and to transmute into its equivalent opposite through action. We make the mistake of thinking that we're supposed to have certain feelings and not others. Every emotion has its own purpose and use. Some are emotions meant to be altered while others are meant to be felt.

Negative emotion or unhappiness is a cause for action. Only when you are unhappy or disappointed are you moved to change what you are doing to get a different result which will probably be what you want. To mentally move you in a different direction to where you are supposed to go. Focus on the emotion and desire, and you will increase the energy and will for action.

Certain negative emotions are not negative in the truest sense when they are meant to propel you to take action that is constructive. Anger and anxiety are emotions of a state that give you energy to take action. Anger is felt when there is a need to handle something that is trying to hurt you. Anger can be converted into well being through assertiveness. Anxiety is felt when there is a need to protect something from being taken away. Anxiety can be converted into confidence by doing courage.

Negative emotion can be converted into positive emotion through right thinking and acting. The only problem is when those emotions are handled immaturely resulting in a regression from anger to depression or anxiety to avoidance. Depression and avoidance are emotional states that rob you of energy. Those are the true negative emotions which we should acknowledge and be with in order to know what we truly want and allow ourselves to act authentically towards it.

Sometimes you have to imagine negative scenarios in order to play it out differently when the actual situation occurs. You have the power to manifest what you imagined or you can alter it in real time in the situation. Changing what was intended to happen is only possible through foreknowledge or foreseeing, which is imagination or mental projection of future scenarios.

Imagination is a place to express your anger, outrage, resentment and unhappiness instead of letting it be expressed in an unexpected way when the situation arise. In this way, your actions can become more intentional when you face the actual scenario because you already know what to expect from yourself. Remember, all action is mental. You can alter your emotions by playing them out in your mind first. They can be altered to a certain extent in your mind that way before you physically act.

In Mind-Body Healing, a physical symptom is a message from your body alerting you that there is a problem you should come to be aware of. By ignoring it, you become sick. In the case of negative emotions, it is a message from your heart letting you know that there is a life issue you should acknowledge and deal with. Ignoring your emotions and trying to reframe them would result in temporal relief but the issue will return to haunt you again and again until you wake up and start being authentic.

Unacknowledged emotional trauma causes energetic contractions in the body. The feelings generated during the traumas persist, and the contractions lead to blockages than eventually creates disease. Trauma freezes our body energy patterns in time. What should be fluid is immobilized. It's as though we can't move forward. We are stuck in a repetition compulsion until the trauma is released. You will be still stuck in the exact pattern of the experience. The way you act and moved carries the imprint of the experience.

Complaining or emotional expression helps you feel better by allowing you to express your frustrations. There is a healing power of expressing emotions. When people can express the emotions and facts of a traumatic event, they have fewer health complaints. In fact, they seem to have fewer problems in general. If you can write or talk about what's upsetting you, you may be able to organize or structure your worries in a more meaningful way. Then you will no longer be so conflicted and upset by them and this should help you get past them. Crying is a way for the soul to heal itself.

Feeling your feelings dramatically improves your mental health, emotional health and physical health. Feeling your authentic feelings, quickly and efficiently, improves the energy flow in your body and energy field. This is because by feeling emotions, energy in motion naturally vibrate though you, clearing away any stagnant energy. When emotions move though your body they break up the heavy, dense energy that has collected from not feeling your feelings and emotions all these years! Feelings your authentic feelings is guaranteed to make you lighter, happier and healthier.

Your emotions are not meant to be neglected. They are meant to be engaged and experienced. You experience by feeling and expressing that feeling. Talking about your feelings is reporting on life. Feeling you feelings is living life. You need to allow yourself to be more authentic instead of putting so much energy into avoidance. Stop avoiding feeling your feelings, whether by thinking too much or talking too much. Just feel your feelings.

There is a tyranny of the positive attitude enforced by society. We have to pretend that life is fine when it isn't. We have to appear optimistic when we aren't. It adds insult to injury when we have to be happy about something we really aren't happy about. "Smile when you're upset", "Don't worry be happy" they all tell us. That is so ridiculous, why can't we just be authentic and allow ourselves to express exactly how we truly feel about something?

The pressure of having to pretend we are ok when we are not. All that denying, acting and pretending takes energy, lots of energy because it is pretense. Pretense keeps us from seeing things as they really are, which presents its own problems. When an unauthentic, unnaturally and immensely positive person is dealt with a blow in life that he/she cannot cope in the usual way, they would at one moment can't help but confess that they hate life or hate everything. Then later when some time has passed, they would disregard what they said earlier on as a "moment of weakness" and in so doing, disregard how they really felt in that moment.

When we are faced with a difficulty, large or small, a positive attitude may be nothing more than denial of a real problem. At the very least, it can sometimes prevent us from seeing what's right in front of our eyes. Self deception however creative it may be, can eventually comeback to haunt. If reality bursts the bubble of someone's denial (as it often does), that person could find herself more devastated than if she had just faced the awful truth about herself in the first place.

People keep rejecting the idea of being authentic with negative feelings, until life hands them a mess that unwarranted optimism or denial won't fix. Then when they come around and acknowledge how they really feel about it, it is actually a moment of strength. Being untrue to ourselves makes us unfulfilled.

Don't feel bad about feeling bad. You have the right to feel bad when you feel bad. Don't let others or yourself tell you that it is no big deal when it really is a big deal to you. Your feelings are your own and are meant for you to acknowledge and be with. Be authentic about them, be authentic with yourself.

Notice how whenever you choose to express how you really feel and be authentic with your emotions, you don't feel worse but you actually feel better? And then now you actually start to think positive things with more freedom and energy than if you had tried to do so at first without even giving time to being with your negative thoughts and emotions? It is all about being authentic. Being authentic liberates you. It is like the inner you that wants to tell you something. When you do not listen, it keeps on bugging you. But when you listen to and act upon it, it feels heard and accomplishes its purpose. Be willing to listen and be with yourself.

When we can overcome negativity very quickly or skip it altogether then it's ok to do it. But when we feel that we can't, then we shouldn't do it. Negativity is not meant to be skipped over, denied, ignored or neglected. Neither is it meant to be overwhelmed and masked with mega doses of positivism. It is meant to be experienced and engaged in its own right and then transmuted into the positive as it happens naturally without strive. Strive is when there is no momentum to do it but you try to. To act without strive is to act with the inner energy, emotion and motivation that builds up within you to do something whether mentally or physically.

Engage and experience your emotions. Allow them to be present while playing out your thought processes. Don't hide them or reframe them away. Once you allow your emotions to express themselves out in your thinking, then you will have the release to think about what's next. Do not skip the negative, allow yourself to experience to negative. Be with it for awhile, it is meant to be there. Then you can move authentically from the negative to the positive. This is the natural way of doing things.

How we feel in the process of getting what we want is equally as important as getting it. Even when we get what we want but did not have the right feelings while getting it, we would not be truly happy. When we give up an internal state in exchange for an external result, we will not be fulfilled. Not being true to ourselves makes us unfulfilled. As beings of consciousness, the only thing we can truly have is our internal state. Because that is what we are.


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