Father and Son Talk About Issues
There was a boy at school who threatened to kill some of the girls in his class. That made my son very angry and protective of the girls, and so he confronted the boy, who then threatened to kill him too. On that issue, outrage welled up in me again and I had to contact the principal so he would be able to deal with the threatening behavior. My son did not want me to, but sometimes Dads still need to intervene. But, I had to find a way to intervene without violating the trust that built up between us that allowed him to share things with me. This meant I had to do a lot of explaining to him about the gravity of the situation, and to give him perspective and understanding. If we know someone is dangerous, and we have the responsibility to say something. In a similar biblical concept, if an owner had an animal he knew could hurt people, and it got out, then the owner was responsible and liable. The unpredictable behavior of a Rottweiler that has not been properly socialized is an example of this. That boy is now in counseling, and appears to have temporarily changed his behavior. I still think the school should have expelled him, but now it is in the hands of the school authorities rather than me. Since my son is a black belt in Tae Kwon Do, and very strong and big, he is the only one that challenges this foul-mouthed bully, and I'm proud of him.
These are some of the things this father and his son talk about when the door opens up. My desire is to stay in touch by doing things with him and listening and being receptive when he opens up. We also do things like walking to the store together and talking, playing games together, playing music together, fishing together, and talking during movies. These activities provide a way for us to stay close, and they give a framework within which my son can share what is on his heart or mind.
It also helps to not try and fix him or fix the problem right away, but rather to ask questions and listen to what he is saying. The time for instilling and training truth into his heart was best when he was young. At his age, guiding him to finding the right answers, rather than telling him my answers, means so much more because the truth he learns then belongs to him. Now, this Dad has a teenager, and has switched to more of a coaching role.
Related Tags: how to, how, activities, father, building, do, build, son, with, relationships listening, talks, my
About Rich Kimura:
Rich Kimura is a freelance writer, married father of 4, chemical engineer, and entrepreneur. He has authored numerous technical papers, has 1 patents and 2 patents-pending, and 24 years experience in the nuclear and chemical industries. Rich started 6 micro-businesses, received financial counseling training by Crown Financial, and teaches on both subjects. To see more free tips and sharing of personal experiences in home businesses, work, money, finances, relationships, spirituality, and other topics, visit Cirrovista at www.Cirrovista.com
Your Article Search Directory : Find in ArticlesRecent articles in this category:
- Miniman: Shopping for the Most Suitable Miniman Baby Clothing
Shopping for baby clothing can be quite difficult, especially if it is the parents' first time to h - New Study: Nearly 40% of Parents Can't Accurately Pinpoint Their Children's Weight
Childhood obesity is rising fast in many countries, and the results from a new study may point to on - Kids Learning And Coloring Pages - A Review
Coloring pages is one of the most favorite fun activities of children which not only entertains them - Where to Look Should You Need a Babysitter
Are you someone who has those last minute meetings that you simply cannot miss? If your job require - What to Do When You Find a Babysitter
You and your husband deserve a night out on the town. Raising children is hard work but most parent - Effective Parenting
Parenting is a vulnerable experience. Caring for children automatically makes us responsible and we - Overcoming the Jitters....helping Anxious Kids
Anyone who has experienced anxiety will know how debilitating it can be. For those with no persona - The Nigerian Child: Face to Face With Abuse
The streets are increasingly becoming the homes of children in Nigeria, such that if nothing is don - How to Handle Autism Anger in the Teenage Years
Teens with autism can sometimes be faced with behaviors - such as autism anger - which are beyond t - Spotlight on Autism Parents - Maintaining Balance in Your Other Relationships
Autism parents don't have it easy. You are faced with many more challenges than parents of childre
Most viewed articles in this category:
- The Perfect Parent...Who Are We Kidding?
I get the feeling that there are a lot of moms and dads out there that feel they're not measuring up - Partial Breastfeeding - Should I Even Bother?
For some women, feeding a baby with breastmilk alone is not possible. The reasons for this vary. For - Skateboarding In The Eighties To The Present
Skateboarding traces its roots to the seventies but it really reached the peak of its popularity in - How Breastfeeding Benefits A Daddy
You know that breastfeeding is best for mother and child, but what's in it for Dad? Isn't he going t - Child-Appropriate Costumes: Violence, Sexuality, And Insensitivity
So your daughter wants to be Wonder Woman for Hallowe'en, or your son wants to be Batman. They're bo - The Evolution Of Vitamin B5 For Acne
I came across the benefits of Vitamin B5 6 years ago whilst searching for an acne treatment that act - Depression And Teens - Six Signs That Your Child May Be Suffering From Depression
Most people are now aware of the seriousness of depression. This has become much more common and mor - Parenting Teenager - Take Time For Your Teen!
BookWire's "Year in Reviews Magazine," December 2006 issue, lists a review of my book "Help Me With - Why It's Important To Follow A Healthy Diet When Pregnant
Pregnancy is one of the most physically enduring times in our lives, and it is more important than e - Sleep Separation And Your Child
It seems harmless enough, lying down with your child while he goes to sleep, but it could be that sl
