Healer Heal Thyself
I have this problem where it pains me to watch my friend go through these problems. If only I could help him somehow, he would be so much better, isn't that true?
It's even more difficult for me as someone who considers herself a healer. It's one of the things I feel a deep connection to and I've seen it do wonders for people.
It finally clicked as I watch my friend go through another rehab. Everything I learned in Reiki, Shamballa and all the other healing modalities doesn't matter - the help is only good if the person who needs it wants it. They themselves do the healing - you are only the conduit. The only way his healing could occur is if my friend initiated and wanted it himself.
I intellectually understand this concept but when my friend was suffering, hurting, becoming someone I couldn't stand, I couldn't comprehend this concept. I offered help but realized I offered with conditions. If only he would do this, if only he would do that, no I wouldn't give him money to do this, etc.
I had to step back and ask myself, as one soul to another, would imposing my will, my idea that my help could somehow change him, would that really do it?
Nope. I am not that powerful.
His will was what was going to do it. Once he got to the point that realized he was about to be homeless again, jobless, loose everything, his health was about to collapse, he said to me, "I'm going to rehab." I hope this time will be different. And so far, 60 days later, it seems to be.
I should thank him because the experience taught me a powerful lesson. As a healer, it is not my place to impose my will on anyone, no matter what my relationship is with them. Who am I to mess with their karma? Who am I to stand in the way of what their path is? There are some situations where there needs to be an intervention but most of the time, it's not my place to step in the way.
As a healer yourself, because whether or not you realize it, just by being you, you are a healer, you must decide when someone comes to you if they are asking for help or just venting. Maybe it's as simple as asking whether or not they need help. Give them the opening to come forward and give them the choice to say no.
Your role as a healer is to create the healing when it is asked for, not when you think it is needed. Offering a kind word or a shoulder to cry on is wonderful but don't judge if it doesn't go any further than that.
Take a look at the people in your life - are you trying to heal them when they've not asked you to apply? If you take a step back, you may see the relationship change because you're being open to the person, not trying to make the do something they don't want to do.
Use that healing energy on yourself - place the effort within. The more you create healing and love within yourself, the more you'll see it in others. You'll be a better healer when those who need you do ask for help.
Related Tags: help, healing, spiritual, reiki, lessons learned
Mary D'Alba is a highly trained and experienced Spiritual Troubleshooter who helps clients understand and develop their special talents, gifts and strengths. Mary has extensive experience in teaching and coaching in the corporate world as well as the Spiritual world. She is able to walk between both genres so her clients have a balance of mental, physical, emotional and spiritual knowledge. Check out her website at http://www.spiritualitygirl.com
Your Article Search Directory : Find in ArticlesRecent articles in this category:
- 21 Benefices Of Rahu Unplugged
The name of Rahu first appears in the Mahabharata when we read the story of the churning of the ocea - Black Magic Spells
Black magic is the principle idea of practicing of magic which represents on assumed spiteful powers - The 3 Ways To Increase The Amazing Grace Of God Upon Your Life
The Amazing grace of God, which is the unmerited favour of God and blessings has been given to all a - The Final Days And Death Of The Buddha
After he reached enlightenment under the Bodhi tree Siddhartha Gautama carried on preaching his mess - Is The Bible The Word Of God
Have you ever wondered if the bible really is the word of God? There are so many religious activitie - India Post Ayodhya Issue Verdict -a Metaphor In Astrological Terms
As the day for the pronouncement of the judgment is drawing near so is the pulse of India on an incr - Where Have All The Burnt Stones Gone?
I was useless at mathematics when I was at school, but by the time I attended Business School I had - Self Improvement Articles - Learning How to Hypnotise Someone Will Change Your Life!
In the past peoples views about hypnosis tended to involve a clock being swung in front of somebody' - Christianity Articles - The Wicked Shall be Turned into Hell
David, in Psalms 9:17, made this statement: "The wicked shall be turned into hell, and all the nati - Buddhism Articles - Let the Arrow Fly
(This little tale is about life, and how we look in all the wrong places for our contentment).
Most viewed articles in this category:
- The Passion
A great shift is in the making: A time for very deep purification and cleansing from the inner core - I Love You
Dear Loved Ones,Good day to you all on this wonderful day full of life and love.Let us all open up o - Spiritual Enlightenment: Alchemical Secret To Going Beyond Humanity To Become An Immortal Exposed
This article reveals the “SECRET WISDOM” in the teachings of all world SPIRITUAL t - Energy Vampire?
Could you, or maybe someone you know; be habitually Driven by anxiety or fear? Could you, or mayb - Automatic Tithing
Last year we went on a two-week trip to the West African country of Nigeria. This is Miata's father - Kabbalah-Way of The Heart
Newton, Jung, Freud, Shakespeare, Blake, and Pythagoras what do they all have in common? These great - Dream Interpretation from a Bible Story
How well do you remember your dreams? Do you pay attention to it by the time you wake up? Everyday, - Healing into Light - The Purification of Individuals and of the Earth
Today, many people on the planet are in need of healing and are suffering through difficult times - - If You Can Read This, Thank A Teacher
Recently the TV news bulletin announced that hundreds of teachers are getting burned out and moving - The Holy Grail - Why It Doesn't Matter
What would you think if I said that I had completely and conclusively solved the mystery of the Holy