The Bride and In-laws


by Michael Douglas - Date: 2006-12-12 - Word Count: 566 Share This!

In-laws of the bride know that the girl has entered their home to settle down as a permanent member of the house. She must now try to adopt the way of life on these premises. She must be given the time and opportunity to learn about her new abode and everyone must help her in this.

Much had come with her which she has brought from her parents. They have given her education, training and also taught her to adjust herself to new surroundings. They want their daughter to bring good news whenever she visits them. If she brings bad news, they are disturbed.

First of all, they try to teach their daughter that she must bear all teething problems but, ultimately, she should adapt to her new family. But if she comes back frequently and tells them that her in-laws are not allowing her to adjust, her parents get disturbed and bad blood is created.

In-laws must see that the bride is accommodated. They must take her as their own. They must know that if they accept her, it will be appreciated but if they behave improperly, they will be criticised by her family who will spread adverse opinions about the in-laws' character.

This bride must not be taken as a wall paper or a handbill. She would not forgive their faults, and would convey everything to her parents. So, if they want a good reputation, the in-laws must behave properly with her and avoid commenting regularly on her activities, way of working in the house and in the kitchen, or her behaviour towards members of the family. Above all, they must never comment on her dowry. Whatever her parents have given her, should be acceptable.

She must not be treated as a burden on her in-laws. They themselves have brought her to the house with great pomp and show and, therefore, they must now tolerate any shortcomings. If they want her to work, they should help her get a job or start some business for her.

If she has the qualifications and training, she herself would like to contribute.

The in-laws must realise that they have not brought a domestic servant in the house. She is an equal partner in the family. and, therefore, everyone must share the work in the house. They should divide work and perform their responsibilities. They should not leave everything on her shoulders because they must understand that she is not habituated to taking up such responsibilities together. She is like their own daughter and she must be helped.

When the people in the house appreciate her food preparations and behaviour, she is imbued with more energy, will and power. But, if she is criticised, she would not do the work wholeheartedly. We must understand, this is the common psychology of all women and we must observe these principles in daily life. Though others in the home have the upper hand, they must not utilise such undesired power on her. They must offer her a helping hand. All must treat her as if she is the member of their own home. The mother-in-law must act as a real mother, the father-in-law as a real father, the brothers-in-law as real brothers and the sisters-in-law as real sisters. The husband must ensure that no one exploits her, and must work like a watchdog in the house.

For, once bride is won over, it is the biggest victory for the house.


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Michael Douglas is an author, relationship expert and a webmaster of Love-Lectures.com, where he provides free relationship advice and love advice to help couples in building healthy and successful relationships.

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