Stop Arguing - How To Disagree Without Having An Argument


by Lynne Lee - Date: 2007-04-27 - Word Count: 350 Share This!

It is possible to disagree without arguing.

Before I show you how, I want to ask you a question. Are you a peacemaker or a peace breaker?

Being a peacemaker doesn't mean that you let people walk all over you. It doesn't mean that you don't offer your opinion or say how you feel about something.

Here are some keys to keeping the peace. You can disagree without having an argument.

Disagree respectfully

People handle disagreement better when you don't cause them to feel as if their opinion is ridiculous or doesn't matter.

Do it wisely

If you're going to disagree with someone, you need to do it wisely. Think about how you will disagree before you open your mouth. The key to peace in disagreement is how you express your opinion.

Don't try to change the other person's opinion

Be careful that you don't move into manipulation and try to get the other person to agree with you. You don't have to try and change their opinion.

Allow People to have a different opinion to yours

Say what you think and leave it at that. Allow people to have their own opinions. Give them the freedom to be who they are and think what they think.

Search for a compromise

Consider that your opinion might be no more right than theirs and find a solution that you're both reasonably happy with.

Give up your right to be right

Sometimes you need to allow someone to go ahead and do something their way even when you strongly disagree. When you can do that and keep a good attitude, it's a sign that you're maturing.

Given time you'll develop your own ways of disagreeing without arguing. The important thing is to be aware of the value of doing it. The key is to respect other people enough to allow them the freedom to disagree.

Coaching points

How can you be a peacemaker without letting people walk all over you?Find ways of respecting other people's opinion without feeling that you must change your own.If you allow other people the freedom to be themselves and show more respect for their opinions you'll find that you can disagree without having an argument.


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