There are many ways to build your social circle, which really can be important if you are trying to learn how to meet women.

When I moved to New York City only knowing one person, I made a point to say hello to everyone I came across: the doormen, the bartenders, the bouncers, the coffee shop workers, everyone. Then what happened is I would introduce myself and they began to recognize me and we became acquaintances. Sometimes I would see some of these people from my neighborhood out at night and I would go up and talk to them until I had a big group of people I knew.

Another activity that really helped me form and cement meaningful relationships was joining a volleyball team. I had to take the lead in that case, but I was able to make long-lasting friendships by starting out on a small level. For instance, every time we had a game I would invite the entire team to meet me and my other friends at a bar or club afterward. We'd often have a huge group of people and I would introduce my volleyball friends to my other friends. Eventually my volleyball friends and I would have our own barbecues and created our own social circle outside of sports.

I also really believe in using media such as MySpace and Facebook to create a social circle. There is nothing wrong with asking someone for their information and then contacting them later to join you and other friends for a drink or whatever. Facebook is nice because there is a bit of prescreening involved, as well. You can be fairly confident that a friend of a friend is probably going to be someone you can relate to.

I made a point to talk to everyone everywhere I went and then to merge my different social contacts into one. I never hesitated to invite my roommate, the waitress at the café and my volleyball opponents all to the same activity. They loved it. They would have a good time but also they were able to meet new people.

Eventually my social circle grew to the point where I really had no need to look outside of the people I already knew to find a buddy to watch football with or a girl to take to the Yankees game. I really had a vibrant social circle within a few months of living in New York.

Which is totally crazy if you think about it and realize that I showed up in a city of 8 million people only knowing one person, my friend. I think that if I can do it, anyone can do it. It takes being friendly, honest and outgoing a bit. You don't have to be gregarious and the life of the party, but you do have to be willing to approach strangers. You also have to be a leader sometimes, taking charge of inviting others to get together. Most people want to get together but few take the initiative. If you do this, you will be ahead of the game and surprised at the results.