We all care way too much what a complete stranger that knows nothing about us thinks. Fear of rejection is the underlying emotion in most approaches. The thought of a beautiful woman sitting there and calling you a loser in front of the entire club makes most guys stomachs turn in knots. Sort or ironically, being rejected will bring the most success with women into your life. Let me explain

Internally most guys think that they are complete lonely losers that no one could love. They greatly fear that women will find this out and have no desire for them. They learn all these cool lines and tricks but that fear of being thought of as a loser by women and confirming their already held beliefs is still strong. It carries so much wait that it cripples them from being comfortable in interactions or EVEN APPROACHING WOMEN.

They try their hardest to avoid getting "rejected" in order to avoid facing their own belief system. They try their very best to do everything "right"and LOOK COOL but by the very act of trying they are doing everything wrong. From this they place wayyy tooo much importance on getting a good re-action from the girl and becoming very outcome dependent and needy. If the interaction goes well they get a false sense of self esteem from the girl and feel good. If it goes badly then that fear of of actually being a loser is triggered and they feel terrible.

When you are outcome dependent you become very attached to what the girl thinks of you. This just breeds of insecurity and neediness which if you hadn't guessed is a HUGE TURN OFF for women. Women are attracted to men who could take or leave any woman. Not caring whether the woman comes, stays, lays or prays seems very counter intuitive but its what will get you the "best" results and lead to a happier and more peaceful life.

In addition to this fear of being rejected is a fear of the unknown. If you are just starting out in approaching or have done a couple of approaches the fear of the unknown is still lingering in the background. This fears makes your mind race at a hundred miles per hour with a million questions: "what if she pours a drink on me?" "what if she rejects me and all the people in the club laugh at me and I am humiliated?" "what if this happens?" "what if that happens?" and so on. The only way around fear of the unknown is to go straight through it and become comfortable with ambiguity of approaching and life.

When you get rejected badly and the initial sting wears down you will find it hilarious how some girls will treat a complete stranger who was just saying Hi to them and being friendly. Part of the reason why they felt the need to reject you badly is how annoyed they are at being hit on all day by guys who haven't a clue. Another part of it is the pleasure they get from rejecting guys. They love the feeling of having the power to control another persons state of emotions through their own actions.

One of the biggest fears that guys carry around with them is a fear of going back to who they were before they learned of the seduction community or any self help stuff. They remember how they felt before knowing any better, the loneliness, the feeling or being powerless and useless in driving the direction of their own lives.

Guy's develop a debilitating fear of being rejected because they fear that they will go back to who they were in the past. As a result, they avoid rejection at all costs.

My suggestion: Go out with the intention of getting rejected HARD. Like any fear, the only way around it is to go through it. Getting rejected, laughed at, drink thrown in face is NOT A BIG DEAL. It's not a big deal but you need to go through harsh and "embarrassing" rejection in order to realize that it doesn't matter what some anorexic club ho who has NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE thinks of you.

Hypnotica walked around for two months unshowered, unshaven, in a dress with a dildo strapped to his head in order to get over caring about what other people think. This is a great thing to do but it's not very practical to people with jobs and obligations. Alternatively, you can go out as many times as needed with the intention of getting rejected.

Here are a couple of things you can do to go down in flames:

-Go up to a girl or a group of girls and ask them "hey, do you like salads? I like croûtons that come with salads" It's a very stupid and ridiculous question to ask to girls in a club but it will help you get over trying to look cool and caring what they think of you.

-Go up to a girl and in a suave and cheesy way say "Daddy's home" but try not to crack up laughing before you deliver the line.

After you say these two things or make up your own, DON'T try and recover and get the girl-just make the approach as bad as you can possibly make it. You might feel uneasy and dumb saying these things but those feelings will eventually go away.

Each time you get rejected badly you will get closer and closer to not giving a shit what other people think about you and you will stop caring about the outcome of the situation. Releasing attachment and concern for other's opinion of you will GREATLY improve your success with women and all other areas of your life.

After a while you will actually begin to enjoy being rejected because of how funny it will become to you. Your skin will be so thick that nothing she does will be any concern of yours. It will no longer send you down a spiral of depression and completely ruin your night.

I'm sorta sadistic in nature, I'm not sure what I enjoy more, being rejected badly or getting the girl. I'm leaning towards to former because getting the girl is enjoyable but getting rejected harshly in a hilarious way is damn entertaining.

-Alex Strandberg

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