Here's why so many men are so far away from success with women.

A man has to be equal or greater in relational power to the woman for her to be generally interested in a physical relationship.

If she can sense that he is going to put or keep her as the favor in the relationship, she will lose interest.

Her loss of interest is biological and emotional; she didn't have any 'feelings' for the nice, supportive guy who brought her flowers and took her out to an expensive restaurant.

So if men could understand that he must have the favor of power in the relationship and the interest of the woman (all that matters), then they would be getting somewhere.

Unfortunately you could tell so many men to act indifferent or not show signs of interest in women but for many of them, their body will be telling the truth.

So many millions of men have edified the value of a woman and her sexually (which is just being exploited by the architects for profit).

They have put so much added value on beautiful, sexy women over time that getting him to act UNinterested is hard to do; it's about all he IS interested in and desires so much.

So many teachers out there will teach men how to 'act' around women. What you should look for instead is those that teach how to 'be' around women.

Relationships will continue to be a blindingly confusing entity to most men until they can find some truth within it all.

They have no idea of the leveraged power they are going up against when they approach an extremely beautiful woman.

This will throw his body language off. He will not act normally because he has been conditioned to respond and edify the perceptual beauty that she represents.

Nothing he can say or do will showcase where he is really coming from. His body language gives it all away.

He's nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin around the woman.

And while he's focusing on what to say and how she might respond, the woman already near disqualifies him for not having power in the first place in relation to her. She's already not interested before he opened his mouth.

His body language and nonverbal communication already told her everything she had to know (to know to prevent the relationship in the first place).

Buying a woman's attention through flowers and gifts is a social CONstruct.

It's meant to 'capture her' and though it's a romantic concept, it's not based on her pure sexual or natural desire itself..it's more of a conditioned social expectation of devotion.

By giving her the power, authority, and control of the relationship through behaviors like that (courtship), a man isn't turning any of the hot buttons on in a woman's true sexual character.

When a man confesses his love and devotion for a woman like at the end of many a movie, what they don't show is the aftermath of how disinterested she becomes in reality. Why? there's no mystery left for her.

The guy laid all his cards out on the table when she wanted to keep discovering him for a long time. She wanted to be attracted to him and magnetized to him but couldn't anymore. It defies her own logic too.

Apply Alpha Relational Dynamics and you'll be able to be your true self but more empowered and effective around women.

A man who understands and loves the beauty within women, not the socially exploited part of them.


-Rion Williams