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by Judy Ringer - 2007-03-09
Most of the time, your eagerness to get your point across guarantees that you won’t. It seems the harder you push to be heard, the harder they push back.How do you create a willing listener? It&...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-03-09
As a professional singer and speaker, I'm often asked if I still get nervous in front of an audience. I do. But I've learned to use my nervous energy – and minimize its impact. I practice ...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-03-09
"Psychologists have found that we are each more interested in knowing that the other person is trying to empathize with us … than we are in believing that they have actually accomplished t...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-02-04
One of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss a ki moment - a key moment, when I might respond with purpo...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-02-04
One of the questions I receive most often from my newsletter subscribers is what do I do when I've "blown it?" As one good friend said: "I forgot all the great ways I know to address a ...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-02-04
"There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening, that is translated through you into action." – Martha Graham When I opened my mouth to sing, my voice caught in my th...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-21
One of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss key moments, when I might respond with purpose and intentio...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-21
Someone asked me recently if I had a guiding principle that helped me decide what new work to take on, and how I decide how much time to spend pursuing my various interests. It's a great question. Ent...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-21
Our goal in conscious communication is not to change the other person . . . Our goal is to establish connection.Andrew LeCompte, author, Creating Harmonious Relationships A parent of three attend...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-07
"There's nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."- William ShakespeareThe title of this great Cole Porter song -Night and Day - also describes the sometimes changeable nature of...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-05
Life offers possibilities of a fresh start for our relationships. But we don't always carry through on our resolutions. There's a great difference between wanting to change and actually doing it. ...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-05
The concept of practice applies to any skill that you want to cultivate. If you take up a new musical instrument, you will need to practice a while before you're ready to give your first concert. In A...
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by Judy Ringer - 2007-01-05
Q. What are some typical breakdowns in the workplace? JR: I wouldn’t call them breakdowns, but conflicts. A typical conflict is what is sometimes called triangulation. One person is upset ...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-15
I swim most mornings at the community pool and then, if there’s time, reward myself with a soak in the hot tub. It's a great tub with room for four or five people, the water is really hot, and y...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
Is there a conversation you've been putting off? Is there a coworker or family member with whom you need to talk - but don't? Maybe you've tried and it didn't turn out as you had hoped. Or maybe you f...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
TIME IS MY FRIENDTIME IS MY ALLYI HAVE ALL THE TIME I NEEDFOR EVERYTHING I WANT TO DO.I received a lot of grateful responses and some questions, indicating just how hard it is to balance our time requ...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
Most of the comments went something like: "I wish I could have the degree of control over my life that you apparently do." I want to say, I wish I had the degree of control over my life that...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
Many of my conflicts have the same feel to them, like "Hey, I think I've been here before," but I can't figure out how I wound up in the same place. The situation is different, but the confl...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
"Organisms do not experience environments, they create them."-- From A Simpler Way, by Margaret Wheatley Walking down Lincoln Avenuein Portsmouth, I am struck by the beauty of the day &ndash...
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by Judy Ringer - 2006-12-14
It was the 10th day of rain, and I walked into the pool locker room feeling a little soggy around the edges. I asked my pool friend, Laurie, how she was and she said, "Bright and cheery. It's a w...
